In past few years January brings more
excitement and zeal in my life. Reason being makar sankranti which marks onset
of series of get-togethers of friends we popularly call haldikumkum. Every
evening getting specially ready , meeting
and greeting friends-family adds so much happiness along with the festive feeling.
Not only it makes our children aware of our customs but brings colours to our
daily routine life. I remember in my teens, teasing my mother for this
traditional functions..feeling them so typical feminine, orthodox and redundant..but over years I guess I have
realized the inner meaning of such events and celebrations.
Some time back I visited a reputed big hospital
and as usual due to traffic I missed my appointment of family physician.i had
to wait in waiting area for a whole hour.
Since it was a common waiting area I started my statistical analysis of
patients waiting to see different categories of doctors. To my surprise maximum
rush was for counselor there. Over the past few years numbers of practicing
counselors have increased visibly. This growth is definitely attributed to the
growing stress and complications in
society. In big cities like Mumbai most of population coming from tier2 and
tier3 cities have their parents and extended family in hometown. Mostly people
live as nuclear families managing on their own. Education, jobs, careers,
competition start taking its toll. If parents are around this stress can be shared.
But with nuclear families every battle is to be fought adopting a trial and
error method. With tight time schedules even husband and wife have so less to
time to communicate and share their daily stories.
The daily stress pilesup in some form or
other..right from morning maid ,different variety in cooking, school ,tuition
class, extracurricular activities, own physical fitness, maintaining updated
wardrobe(lol..social pressures ) ..maintaining cars, excelling in jobs ,and so
on..this stress over period starts showing in form of fatigue, irritation, anger
and depression
I remember going through extremely low emotional
phase post delivery..even though professionally qualified I had to opt for
flexi option for satisfying my motherly craving, child’s safety and security.With
no help of extended family around it was the most critical and crucial
period..this started taking toll on my personality and my confidence. I started
doubting my own skill sets. But one day I decided to dare something which I was
postponing since long..i decided to
start driving car.That one decision gave me new high in life. First time I put
my daughter on seat next to me and drove ,it gave me happiness beyond words..This
event was one of the positive source in darkness where I had started losing myself.
It filled me with different form of energy which was unexplainable. This
incident onwards I started looking for small positive changes. Changes which
filled my life with energy which I used for combating and overcoming daily stress
issues..i started conversing more with whomsoever I met. After a conscious
effort I started understanding positive and negative energies of thoughts,
events, activities and people.
Positivity is very very important in life to
maintain balance at all levels. Positive energy brings immense peace and satisfaction in different levels of our lives.
So many courses are being conducted now a days for increasing positivity. From
my experience I have realized that positivity is gained more effectively by
making little changes around our own selves. Daily self introspection to avoid
bad thoughts, bad circle is a key
factor.
Planting or watering a plant, singing a favourite
song, dancing on dhinchak song, catching up with old friend ,cooking .. all give small doses of positivity. The smile
which maid gives on offering tea ,a little thanks to the security guard, warm enquiry about old neighbor, a little help to kid in park ...all are small forms of
positive doses. These doses act as free nutritional supplements wiping out
negative feelings of insecurity, failure, jealousy, arrogance, greed and
eventually depression…Over a period we start inculcating and nurturing
qualities of love ,warmth forgiveness, helpfulness…
I guess that the festival celebrations which
predominantly seem to be feminine were also started with the intention of
spreading positivity among women who at that time where confined to their
houses and household chores. Instead of concentrating on rituals if we try to
find out something more meaningful from such get-togethers I feel purpose is
more than solved .these type of get-together with friends family act like
breezers in life.
Positivity gained in any form is like pillar of
strength which comes to our rescue in odd times of our daily lives. Our
positive mindset is like lamp that fills brightness around. One happy mindset
can definitely make at least 4 people happy at a point of time. Its upto us how
we spread the aura of our positivity and happiness, l have embarked on this
journey of positivity with the belief that life’s law of motion is little
different from Sir Newton’s third law .
For me
For me
Every action has equal and better reaction
So dear friends think positive and be positive
